A Tribute for Mothers Day
May 10, 2009
rebecca weisler Surrounded by her home team in Minneapolis, MN
At the beginning of this year Rebecca made an announcement during a family counsel where we were discussing the year ahead and our goals for 2009. She said to our children, “This year I will have spent more of my life with your Dad than without him.”
It took just a moment for the significance of this to sink in for me…actually I think it has been sinking in ever since she said it. I am not sure a single day has gone by that I haven’t reflected on it in some way…and I can still hear her quiet voice echoing those words in my mind.
Married in Aug 1991 Kirk & Rebecca Weisler
We married when she was only 18… and now in just a few short months we will celebrate our 18th anniversary. And when we pass that mark…she will have truly spent more of her life with me than without me. I’ve had many thoughts about this, about what this means to me now and what it might mean in the future.
My first thoughts are usually along the lines of “I’m so grateful she has chosen to spend half of her life with me in spite of my weaknesses and shortcomings. My other immediate thought is usually something like… “Has the 18 years you’ve chosen to spend with and invest in me and our relationship been all that might have been? Have they been enough, have they helped you grow, be happy, become all that you might have become?
When someone chooses to give you a piece of their life, it i’s a sacred thing. It is certainly not something to be wasted or taken for granted. From my perspective, watching Rebecca grow from a young, new bride into the beautiful and thoughtful mother of five has inspired me in too many ways to describe.
Rebecca has always been a very self confident woman. I believe because from the time she was a young girl she was grounded in clearly defined principles and standards. She had also decided at a very young age the type of girl, woman and mother she wanted to be…and I have watched her be, and become that person. She has lived a life of fidelity and virtue and she has done so with a conviction and confidence that has inspired our children and others to follow her example.
Someone wisely said, ” there is nothing so attractive as a virtuous woman”. I wonder if that wise someone new my Rebecca. Because to me, no one is as attractive as she is. She is an incredible woman, a life long learner, a leader in the community, a mother first and friend second to our children, a most loyal friend and spouse, someone I love to laugh with, am blessed to live with and long to be with. She prays daily for our family, for our marriage, and for inspiration and revelation on how she can be and do better.
I love you Becks and am excited for the future we are creating together.
Love – Kirk
rebecca weisler is an awesome MOM!!
Kirk- I absolutely love your T4D’s! I share them with so many people because they usually strike a special chord within me- however this one today- where you are showcasing your family really strikes home on many fronts. I would start by saying you have a beautiful family!! I’ll enclose a pic of my kiddo’s. Two huge points struck me in this T4D- one- the awesome letter/ commentary you gave on Rebecca when she declares that she has been with you more than she has been without you after this your 18th year of being married! (Congrats by the way!!)
What a role model you are to all of us men who need to take the time and thank our wives for all that they are for us. I’ve personally put my wife through the ringer, and by God’s grace she has stuck by me. We have chosen to grow together in spite of all the darkness we have travelled, which I am and will be forever grateful. Without even knowing it, by the inspirational words you send to a huge audience of readers and supporters, you are helping families grow stronger every day.
Secondly- the comments your wife made on Tolstoy were very accurate- and this sticks out to me- and I’ll be using it as a signature.. The measure of a joyful family life is not in our transient emotions, but rather in our lasting commitments. AWESOME!! Periodic good times and favorable times are good, but cannot replace the feeling of love and appreciation a strong understanding of commitment will bring and help you endure through the not-so-good times. (I was going to say crappy, but not after your radio show…)
I’m sorry this is so long- but I felt compelled to write you and thank you for your years of encouragement to me. May God bless you and your family and may His favor never cease for you.
God Bless!
Mark E.
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